This is Living: Surviving Substance Abuse in a Loved One

As a survivor of domestic violence, and a member of Al-Anon, I know I would not have been able to make it to where I am today on my own strength or in my power alone.

Over the last 20 years, I believe that God was irrevocably there holding me up and sheltering me and my children. I wondered whether or not I would survive emotionally and physically. I now realize I was never faced with more than I could handle, but just enough to build my character and a sense of gratitude for every blessing that has been given to me.

I have been choked, thrown across the room, spit on, pushed down to the floor as I showered, had my car rear-ended, had my life and the lives of my loved ones threatened, and been harassed in the courtroom. During this time, I found little hope or joy in sight.

In 2011, seeking a better way of life, I got involved with a recovery group called “Celebrate Recovery.” My first reaction was, “I am not one of those people.” But as I continued to attend the meetings, I realized we are all those people.

I obtained a sponsor and several accountability partners who have walked with me and encouraged me, made themselves available to me at all hours, and prayed with me.

As I began to attend the meetings, I realized that more than just being a survivor of an alcoholic abusive relationship, I am codependent and an enabler. The program helped me deal with the inner hurts, habits, and hang-ups that can lead to addictions as well as the behaviors and triggers that lead to dependencies. Through Al-anon I was able to see patterns in my choices in men. I began to understand my triggers and what it meant to be an enabler, codependent, and a rescuer. And I was able to break the cycle of insanity that I found myself in.

I believe a crucial part in my recovery is being of service to others. The Peer Volunteers have experienced life out on a limb, just like you. We are available to help you get the resources you need and are here to encourage you in your quest.

Through my own experiences, I have been able to offer hope to others who are experiencing the same struggles. I appreciate all the challenges that have come my way; they have made me stronger. I am still a work in progress and consider each day a blessing. I am now blessed to be one of those people who get to hold up others in their recovery.

​Rebecca, Peer Volunteer
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